Perhaps this is why it’s such a difficult emotion to explain, because of how subjective it can be.
At first, this may all seem great. But over time, you may verbally express your love more than you do physically. Your partner hears words, but sees no actions to back them up. This can make them doubt your feelings towards them, or make them feel unappreciated.
Words of affirmation.
Words of affirmation are important when expressing your appreciation, regardless of how small the thing is that someone’s done for you. Some people, though, are less verbally expressive and may communicate using one of the other love languages.
Their idea of reciprocating what you do may be through acts of service or receiving gifts, so they’ll do things for you or give you a token of their appreciation. But if you don’t feel love in this language, you’ll eventually begin to wonder if they appreciate you and everything you do for them. This is why it’s important to not only express your appreciation verbally, but to communicate to your significant other how you feel love.
Acts of service
Segueing directly into a virtual opposite of the previous point, we reach acts of service, which could essentially be taken as “actions speak louder than words.” For some, words mean nothing without actions to back them up. In fact, this rings true for many people, as words without actions are essentially meaningless.
However, regardless of how many gifts you buy or how many times you tell someone you appreciate them, if their love language is acts of service, unless you actually get up and do things for them in return, they won’t feel your love.
Receiving gifts
Gifts don’t have to be elaborate items; they can be small, thoughtful gestures like picking up your partner’s favorite candy when you see it at the convenience store, or picking up flowers for no reason. For some people, this is how they both show and feel love most deeply — by giving to (or receiving from) others, no matter how small they may be.
Quality time
The only thing we can never get more of, and that we all have an equal amount of, is time. For those whose primary love language is time, putting your phone down and giving a partner your undivided attention is what’s going to mean the most. Don’t half-listen to the TV in the background. Don’t scroll through your newsfeed during dinner. Hell, don’t even finish reading this article if you’re with someone whose primary love language is quality time. They understand the time you spend with them is more valuable than the money you spend on them. More money can be made, but more time cannot.
Physical touch
I personally relate to this one. For me, any small touch reverberates through my heart. It doesn’t matter if it’s my girlfriend holding my hand walking through a store, or resting her head on my shoulder — any sort of physical contact is what really shows love to me. These love languages are a great way to help you define and communicate how you feel love. They’re also a great way to teach us how to express our love to our partner in a way we’re sure they’ll understand.
But before any of this is possible, we need to have a conversation with him or her to define which language(s) they can best relate to. Then, we have to put in the effort to make sure we “speak” to them properly.
The term “love language” is no mistake. Consider sitting in a room with someone who speaks a foreign language and attempting to communicate. You may get a few things across, but they aren’t going to fully understand what you’re saying. In order to get through to them, you’re going to have to learn the nuances of their language, and vice versa. The same goes for love.
Source: Your Tango
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